I click on update when anki first launches, it does its loading thing and then nothing ever happens. I go into add ons and specifically check for updates, i update, it does its loading thing and then i restart and nothing changes and I can still update again, but of course it just does the same thing.
Force quit Anki, hold shift while starting Anki back up - this should open debug mode.
Tools > add-ons > check for updates > update all > restart Anki
thanks that solved it